So I tell Canaan on the way to the movie theater Saturday night that I've been considering going to church. It's greeted with a horrified "WHAT?". "Did you tell Dad?" I explained that her Dad and I have been talking about this in great lengths over the past few weeks.
"I'm not going....and you can't make me participate if I do go, Mom you have taught us that your spirituality is very private, I don't want to share my relationship with my God with a bunch of stupid kids" I'm shocked at this...more so at the maturity of the argument. I tried to ease her worries and explained that I felt the fellowship would be good for her and her brothers. She then launched into a very mature, very thoughtout spiel about her thoughts and theirs "the christian kids". "I don't need a group to tell me to keep my virginity, I don't need a stupid a abstinence ring, I'm very aware of my virginity and my choice to keep it. You've raised me to make my own decisions and to think them all the way out and be responisible for my actions. I don't need them to help. They don't realize they have to be responisible for their actions, not blame God for poor choices." At this I'm COMPLETELY blown away....what do you say to that. I know 40 year olds who don't think things out like she has. I'm guessing this abstinence issue is the hot topic in high school. She has a friend in the "pride" troup that goes to this church I had mentioned. She made it clear she didn't want to be "brainwashed" like her.
So as proud as I am of my kids, I've made them anti establishment, at least where church is concerned. Not to mention Kevin is very opposed to going into any church and having them ask for money. He's very giving with his money if it's for a good cause, he's just very cynical when it comes to a church.
I don't know what to do about this! I did raise those kids to be exactly the way they are. I am proud, but I would think they were young enough to be open to new ideas. Nope. I can force them to church, I can't make them learn, and I'll struggle to keep them from "bahhh-ing" at the "sheep kids" under their breath.
So now I'll just stick with praying and reading on my own. Trying to find a way out of this.
On a different note, please continue to pray for Stacy, Spencer and Issac, his birth is set for Oct 7. Also I mentioned Lindsay in a previous post. It's her daughters birthday today, and she could also use some prayer and love her way.
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I think that I might remind Canaan that there are more kids than just the ones that she knows, who go to church. Remind her that you also didn't raise her to judge all people by one or two.
Also, if she goes to church and is in the "kids' group", but is uncomfortable with what she's learning there, she can come hang out with you. She's certainly old enough for an adult message.
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